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Saturday, July 23, 2011

Seven Ways on How to Stay Positive

Do you want to be a positive thinker?  

I have posted the test that will help you determine if you are an optimist or a pessimist. This time, several friends of mine have helped me come up with a list of what a person may do to be positive most of the time. I hope this post will benefit you in any way it can.

I asked my friends the things they commonly do to stay positive. The suggestions below are the summary of their answers. I also included my personal practice and my observation of other positive people's practice.

  • Belief and hope in God.  Some of my friends who answered this trusts that faith and hope in God helps them to look beyond what is happening. By trusting in Him, all else will be bright even if the surrounding is not. 

  • Count your Blessings.  This also means being thankful when counting the blessings. It's good to know that we also learn to see that everything that's happening, good or bad, there's always a blessing. As I mentioned in my previous post, good things are blessings while bad things are blessings in disguise. Furthermore, people who count their blessings realizes that they are rich. 

  • Think of the Good Times.  Yes we all experience bad times, and at a different level at that. We learn from them. But to keep our sanity (yes, you heard it right. LOL!) and be inspired, cherishing the good and happy moments of our lives builds our courage to keep going. 

  • Think and Speak Positive.  My current and former employers; my mentor during my OJT; and a friend of my mother I call Dad (who have helped me at some time, God bless his soul) all speak positive. It's like there's no room for "I don't know" when asking for an update about a certain project (if you don't have update yet, you should answer "I will check and will get back with you").  They're the persons who asked me "If others CAN do it, why can't you?" They inspire, encourage and uplift spirit. They criticize constructively. And they seldom repeat negative statements. Remember:  Whatever we say does not only tell what we think about others but also reflects who we are and how we think about ourselves. Follow the S.A.A.D. formula (by Dr. Amit Abraham): Simple, Active, Affirmative and Declarative.

  • Bond with Positive People.  If you think that you get discouraged so easily, then it will be good to bond with positive people the more. If you're a positive person through and through, bonding with other optimists will reinforce your attitude. Once you go out with pessimists, you'll not easily be dispirited.

  • Encourage Yourself!  If there's no one to cheer you up, then encourage yourself. I had to do this several times, mind you.

  • Smile, Laugh.  This one I had to learn late of my high school life. Sometimes, it's good to laugh at ourselves, too! 

Do you have additional suggestions?

Saturday, July 16, 2011

Quiz: Are you a Positive Thinker?

Last week, my sister and I hang around the mall to bond. After eating, I made sure I drop by my favorite bookstore to look for something to read [usually a romance novel ;)].  And then, I stumbled upon this book with intriguing title.  What a coincidence I wrote about positive thinking last time! Finding this book helped me checked myself.  And so, I'd like to share this to you, my friends.

(There are helpful tests and tips in this book but I won't put them all in a blog. The book is affordable.)

According to Dr. Amit Abraham, author of Personality Development through Positive Thinking, being optimistic helps us develop our personality (for the better).  

To check if you are a positive thinker, here take the test.

Please read the statements below and respond to them positively or negatively.  BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF.  Your honesty in answering the test will help you.  Answer either YES or NO.  (You can grab a pen and a paper to write down your answers).

Wednesday, July 6, 2011

Count your Blessings


And stay positive!

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     In my Single Blessedness 101 post, one of the things I mentioned I do to enjoy my status as single is to count my blessings.  Yep, that's right! =)

     Most of the time, it's easier to spot the disgrace, the mistake, the wrong.  Is it just natural for human?  Maybe.  If we were to be shown with a clean, white paper with a dark dot in the middle of it, what will we see?  Back in elementary, in our Values Education/Formation subject, when I was in 3rd grade (I think, hehe..sorry sign of aging), all of us answered one: the dot.  The same trick was used when I was in high school, still in Values Education subject.  Good thing we improved because some of us answered "dot" while some answered "bond paper with dot".  See?  It's easy to be negative than to be positive.  It's easy to complain than to obey (yes, I'm guilty haha).  It's easy to see the dark side than to see the negative side.  

     It was in the later year in high school life that I practiced looking at the brighter side; to be a positive thinker.  It did help me. ^_^

     I learned that being positive most of the time calms me down, helps me find a solution and move on.  (You don't ignore the negative; you just stay on the positive after realizing the negative side).

     Does that mean I'm hopeful of getting hitched in the future?  Yes! =)  I am also positive that whether I get romantically involved or stay single my whole life, I will be happy.  Because, I chose to be happy and I have my family with me.  So, I count my blessings.  With that, I stay positive. ;) 


Sunday, July 3, 2011

Etiquette / Manners – one of the keys in building relationship?


Remember your Good Manners & Right Conduct (GMRC) subject in elementary?

From: Indiasait2011b Travellerspoint

The other day, July 1st, I read a “weird news” on The Telegraph about an email from an allegedly mom-zilla.  According to the news, in just a few hours, this email reached half of the western world already.  What’s the email all about?  It’s about incoming daughter-in-law’s "improper etiquette" when she visited her future mother-in-law in London.  The email was from the mother-in-law but the target of the email – the daughter-in-law, sent it to her few friends which in turn sent it to some friends until unknown friends sent it to somebody and then now it reached the eastern part of the globe. 

If you have read it (before continuing reading this post), you may agree with the mother-in-law or you may sympathize with the daughter-in-law.  Either way, there are simple truths that I learned upon reading the article.  Here are the few I noticed: